New York State of Mind
I have been to New York about fifty times. And every time I arrive, I am still in awe as I come in from JFK and see that famous skyline.
Then, as I enter the city and feel that extraordinary 'buzz', I feel that I am in the greatest city on earth. It is a bustling, energising, vibrant snapshot of the world.
Whilst some people complain that it is a 'rude and impenetrable concrete jungle', I have found that, if you know how to connect with people, it is one of the friendliest places you could visit. Whilst here I got to thinking about why some people who don't love New York, and I thought about the NLP presupposition which I often quote in lectures - 'the meaning of your communication is the response you get'.
My belief is that I always feel that it is incumbent on me to communicate my message rather than expect people to understand me.
If you make an assumption (as described in the film 'Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels' as "the mother of all f**k-ups") that someone should understand you, it doesn't matter if the assumption is right or wrong; what matters is if they got the message and the result you want.
If you are one of those people who find New Yorkers ill-mannered and uncouth, you might want to consider asking yourself "How can I communicate more effectively so the other person understands my meaning no matter what?"